Loving an addict is by far the most challenging task I have ever had to face. You watch the life of someone you love fade away. You watch their personality, aspirations, and health deteriorate. Loving an addict is a different kind of love because addiction is a disease by choice. Much like loving someone with a terminal illness, you are cherishing the memories made in his healthy years, searching for unknown answers, and preparing yourself for the worst case scenario. Unlike loving someone with a terminal illness, the fate of your loved one is not in the hands of a nasty tumor on his brain or a virus infecting his cells, it is in his own hands. His fate lies within the substance in his hands. Death hasn't chosen him, he has chosen his own devil to dance with.
A dear friend of mine,...
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If I'm phony because I learned to live my life without ultimatums from another, then so be it. That is perfectly fine by me. I've had my reasons for cutting you off. Sure, there may be love for you there. BUT! I will not allow it to blindly walk me through the same murky abyss, I once did because of you.
I'm done living my life bending over and pleasing others as well as taking on battles that aren't mine. If you want to live your life being hated by everyone and engaging in never ending drama.. Then that's your choice, not mine. Life is cruel as it is without further indulging in negativity and tearing one another apart. Like is it really that hard to be genuine? What's the point of harassing others or causing problems that were NEVER there to begin with? Why can't you be happy for...
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Dear all barbers,
I am almost out of patience with paying upwards for $40 for a haircut from someone who can offer me no opinions or feedback when I ask for advice on personal style.
I've never been once to take my car to the mechanic and tell him how to do his job. I understand cutting hair is differen't as no one person is the same and notions of what looks good changes etc but for someone who spent 1400 hours studying haircuts I am going to place expectations on you to offer your opinion and feedback about what I should do if I ask for it.
I don't want to walk into every barber shop with a photo of what another barber did to a better looking persons head. That person had a barber too and that barber said "When I'm done you are going to look suave as fuck". This is the barber...
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Dear 15 year old me,
Damn girl you're a mess. I could spend this whole letter talking about that but we learned not to bash ourself about everything anymore. I guess we can start with the drugs. You have some pretty cool friends but you already know that. But let's set the scene. It's the Halloween parade. You're with your friends trying to be cool. You don't realize that they'll be supportive whether you want to be a dumbass or not and later you'll find out they'll be so much more supportive when they find out you're trying to quit. Some of them are dead, some of them have also quit, and some of them you cut off because you didn't want to condone that drug use but you learned the difference between your friends and the people you did drugs with. Moving on to the boy. He'll come in...
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Dear Dr. Shermer,
I don't know if you'll have time to read this because I know you're a very busy man, but here I go. I'm currently reading The Believing Brain and absolutely loving it, and I'm really looking forward to reading The Moral Arc next. I suffer from a serious condition which I'm sure you're probably familiar with called depersonalization-derealization disorder. It can at times be a terrifying ordeal, and it makes up the backbone of my depression, but I'm delighted to say that your work is helping me feel a lot better about life and is helping me cope through better understanding my own brain.
I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, and I believed in the paranormal as well as every conspiracy theory under the sun up until about seven years ago, when I discovered the...
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My poor gullible Mother,
You have been fooled. Your fellow conservatives have taken advantage of your maternal instincts. They say the transgender bathroom laws are to, "protect the children from rape", but it is plain to see this is a disguise. The only reason this law has been created is to exclude the transgender community and attempt to force them to subscribe to traditional American gender roles.
I am truly ashamed of the fear based hatred I am seeing in America today, and even more ashamed that my mother is a member of that crowd. Allow me to lay down some points and scenarios for you...
1. You have been sharing a restroom with lgbtq people forever.
2. This theory of a predator claiming to be Trans to prey on children is bullshit. That has never happened. That is just...
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I was introduced to you by my sister. You are in her unit. She texted me about you and told me you were a southern country guy, my type. I was iffy at first, because I don't do well with guys, but I added you and we began talking. You thought it was funny how the whole situation started with you messaging her about me. I thought it was amazing how much we had in common and how you were the only person that I met in 9 years that knew where my hometown was, because you lived by it previously. You called me at 3:00 AM that night and we talked. I began loving your voice.
I was intimidated by your experience and your manliness, but I definitely wanted to make this work. Though we didn't live in the same city, we still lived in the same state, only maybe 2-3 hours away, depending on a few...
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It's really a sad thing when a single phrase: " you are really close " becomes " you used to be close ". It's so sad to think why people easily forget you, forget all the memories and things you've been through and have done. People easily forget you when they have their new set or circle of friends, it's like having the thought of they're using you as their ladder in order for them to be elevated and to be recognized by others and when that time comes, they forget you and and worse is they spread fallacies behind you. Several times i experienced this kind of attitude from other people but the only thing i hold on to is " Even though they're giving me this kind of treatment, they had been good to me " my point is we should not forget and abandon those people whom we used to be in the very...
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A lust for money and power and utter disregard for humanity are vices that run rampant in the world we live in today. If you don't believe me, I dare you to pick up any newspaper today and tell me thats not true...We see Sports Stars testing positive for lethal drugs like cocaine and marijuana, people who we once aspired to be like. People we looked up to. We see a glimmer of hope in the way newly bred politicians have come into the limelight. Only to fizzle out and disappoint us after claiming the power they sought all along. The poor man still lives without a home. The beggar on the street got an arm amputated just to earn some bucks to get by.
The law remained the same. Influential people got away with murder. Promised tax reforms could only brim and bring false hope to those...
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Dear Tim,
I'm writing this in despair.
you are one of the reasons that I'm despairing, life has been too hard and has only been getting worse.
when I came to see you last year I still wanted help even though experience told me that I would never get help.
when I met you I felt that you were skilled enough to help me and I put faith in you, unfortunately yet again I was going to be let down.
you didn't tell me that you were going to relocate. what you said to me early on with that you wanted to write down about people and authorities who let me down and see if something could be done about that.
of course I should have known from experience that when someone makes grand plans like that they're going to let me down so spectacularly that I'll be left shattered,
it's...
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